STRENGTHENING the parent-child relationships requires work and effort.
Parenting is a tough job, but by maintaining a close relationship and open communication with your children, parents can stay connected to them during all stages of life.
Further, a strong parent-child connection actually makes parenting easier since children who feel more connected to their parents are more inclined to want to listen, help and follow directions.
Children who feel connected also are more willing to talk to their parents about problems with friends or in school.
Here are 10 simple tips families can use to deepen bonds between parents and children.
Tell children you love them
Tell children you love them every day, no matter their age.
Even on trying days or after disagreements, parents should make sure children know that although you did not like their behaviour, you love them unconditionally.
Conflict is the most important time for parents to communicate their love to their children.
A simple “I love you” does loads to strengthen relationships.
Play with them
The key is to really get down on the floor and play with your children.
Play with dolls, balls, board games or sing songs.
It does not matter what you play, just enjoy each other and commit to giving your undivided attention.
Let your kids see your silly side.
Older kids enjoy cards, chess, and computer games, while younger ones have fun playing any game with parents.
Establish a special name or code word
Create a special name for your child that is positive or a secret code word that you can use with each other.
Use the name as a simple reinforcement of your love.
The codeword can be used to extract a child from an uncomfortable situation (such as a sleepover that is not going well) without causing undue embarrassment to the child.
Develop and maintain bedtime rituals
Reading bedtime books or telling stories to children creates lifelong rituals.
Bedtime is a separation and creating a ritual makes kids feel safer Bedtime may also be the only time working parents share with their kids so try and make it calm and enjoyable.
Once children start reading, have them read a page, chapter, or short book to you.
Even most teenagers still enjoy the ritual of being told goodnight in a special way by a parent.
Teach them about Faith
Teach your child about your faith and beliefs.
Tell her what you believe and why.
Allow time for your child to ask questions and answer them honestly.
Reinforce those teachings often.
Let children help
Parents sometimes inadvertently miss out on opportunities for closeness by not allowing their child to help them with various tasks and chores.
Unloading groceries after going to the store is a good example of something that children of most ages can and should assist with.
Children feel powerful when they help.
Children can also help by giving opinions.
Asking a child which shoes look better with your dress lets him know you value his opinion.
Of course, if you ask, be prepared to accept and live with the child’s choice.
Eat meals as a family
You have heard this before, and it really is important!
Eating together sets the stage for conversation and sharing. Turn the TV off, and do not rush through a meal.
When schedules permit, really talk and enjoy one another.
It can become a quality time remembered by young and old alike.
Seek out one-on-one opportunities
Some parents have special nights or “standing dates” with their children to create that one-on-one opportunity.
Whether it is a walk around the neighbourhood, a special trip to a playground or just a movie night with the two of you, it is important to celebrate each child individually.
Although this is more of a challenge for parents of several children, it is achievable!
Respect Children’s Choices
You do not have to like your child’s mismatched shirt and shorts or love how your child has placed pictures in his room.
However, it is important to respect those choices.
Children reach out for independence at a young age, and parents can help to foster those decision-making skills by being supportive and even looking the other way on occasion.
After all, it really is OK if a child goes to daycare with a striped green shirt and pink shorts.
Make them a priority in your life
Your children need to know that you believe they are a priority in your life.
Children can observe excessive stress and notice when they feel you are not paying them attention.
Sometimes, part of parenthood is not worrying about the small stuff and enjoying your children.
They grow up so fast, and every day is special.
Take advantage of your precious time together while you have it! – VeryWellFamily.