The ManicaPost
DEAR TETE
I am a man with two wives who are giving Mr serious headaches. My biggest fear is that these women will poison me one day as a final resolution. I married my first wife over 20 years ago, but she still behaves like a little girl. For that reason I decided to marry wife number two who is older and more mature than the first.
My first wife is a bully who always picks fights in the home, accuses my wife of witchcraft and all sorts of frivolous lies. Having said all that about number one wife, number two is also a nuisance herself.
My second wife is a gossip machine who has even people from outside the family also confronting her about her loose tongue. I am sick and tired of the drama that is causing my unhappiness. Perhaps I should marry number three?
Tete Responds
Marry number three? Marrying number two did not help train your immature wife maturity, or did it? Your solutions are not solutions, but problems that need real solutions.
What is done is done and we must learn from the past moving forward. You made a choice that gave you two wives that are in your opinion troublesome. So, what will you do about it? It seems like you need an honest intervention by a close and trustworthy person, not just for the improvement of your life, but also for your children as well. Polygamous wars threaten family bonds and can cause serious divisions that may be difficult to mend.
Your wives will need to understand that you are their husband and likewise you must behave like their husband. You must be fair and transparent in your dealings with them always remembering to stop comparing the two to each other. Give them individual space and quality time to be with you without mention of the other and be patient. And please…….do not add to your problems if you want peace.
GOOD LUCK!
Be Wise.
For more topical discussions tune into Diamond Fm on 103.8Fm or Livestream on www.diamondfm.co.zw on Monday 9-10pm (Zvozwinyi) Wednesday 7-8pm (Her Story) and Saturday7-8am (The Cushion). You can send an email to [email protected].
