Hi Tete Joyie:
I hope I will find you well.
I am a lady aged 23, and I have two boyfriends who give me the same love, care and attention.
Now, my problem is both of them want to marry me.
I once told my aunt about this issue.
She said I should not marry into one of my boyfriends’ family.
She said if I get married there, she would cut all ties with me but I feel that this is the guy that truly loves me.
What do I do?
Tete Joyie says:
I am glad you reached out for advice.
It sounds like you are in a difficult situation.
It is important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you, and who you feel comfortable and happy with.
It is understandable that you are feeling torn between your two boyfriends.
However, it is important to take some time to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship.
Consider what qualities are most important to you in a partner, and which of your boyfriends best embodies those qualities.
Think about your long-term goals and whether either of your boyfriends is a good fit for those goals.
It is also important to consider the practical aspects of marriage.
Think about your future plans, such as where you want to live, whether you want children, and how you envision your life together.
Consider which of your boyfriends is more compatible with your future plans.
Ultimately, the decision of who to marry is yours alone.
It is important to listen to your heart and make a decision that feels right for you.
However, it is also important to be honest with both your boyfriends about your feelings and your decision.
It is not fair to keep them both in the dark or to lead them on.
I hope this helps!
Shamble love life haunts me
Dear Tete Joyie:
I am a young man aged 27 and my love life is in shambles.
I like women a lot and I don’t have a type because I am desperate for love, so I am looking for it anywhere.
I have tried dating sites, WhatsApp group dating groups, and I love spending my time watching porn because it makes me happy, even though I know it is wrong.
I need a woman by my side so tell me Tete, what should I do?
Tete Joyie says:
I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so down about your love life.
It is understandable that you want to find someone to share your life with, but it is important to remember that love cannot be forced or rushed.
It is also important to remember that watching porn is not a healthy way to cope with loneliness or to find love.
While it may provide temporary pleasure, it can also lead to feelings of guilty, shame, and addiction.
Instead, try to focus on building healthy habits and relationships that will bring you long-term happiness and fulfilment.
Here are some tips that may help you find love and happiness:
1. Focus on yourself: Take some time to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship.
Consider your values, goals, and interests, and think about what kind of partner would be a good match for you.
Work on developing your own hobbies and passions, and focus on building a fulfilling life for yourself.
2. Be open to new experiences: Try new things and meet new people.
Join clubs or groups that interest you, take classes, or volunteer in your community.
This will help you expand your social circle and meet people who share your interests.
3. Be patient: Remember that finding love takes time.
Don’t rush into a relationship just because you are feeling lonely or desperate.
Take the time to get to know someone and build a strong foundation of trust and respect.
4. Seek professional help: If you are struggling with feelings of loneliness, depression, or anxiety, consider seeking help from a mental health professional.
They can provide you with support and guidance as you work through your emotions and develop healthy coping strategies.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you for who you are.
Don’t give up hope, and keep working towards your goals.
With time and effort, you can find the love and happiness you’re looking for.
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