The ManicaPost
Dear Tete Joyie
My very serious relationship ended because my blood sister went to my then boyfriend and fed him lies that I was using juju on him.
She went as far as telling his sisters that I was diabolic.
This is how this good guy left me.
I found out five years later when I bumped into the guy in a foreign land and he told me how my very own sister had bad-mouthed me.
I confronted her and she said she did not mean it.
Now she wants me to help her come to the country that I am now based.
I have not forgiven her and I don’t think I ever will.
How do I heal from this?
Tete Joyie says:
I can’t even blame the guy.
If your sister comes to tell me this kind of thing, I will take her seriously.
I won’t be risking anything because I believe that no one knows you that much.
On the flipside, your boyfriend should have asked himself why your sister was ‘protecting’ him instead of her own sister?
You should forgive her for your own benefit.
Forgiveness has the power to release us from negative emotions and attitudes by freeing us from the burden of resentment, bitterness, and anger.
When we hold onto grudges or refuse to forgive those who have wronged us, we become trapped in a cycle of negative emotions that can consume us and damage our relationships with others.
However, when we choose to forgive, we open ourselves up to experiencing healing and freedom from these negative emotions.
Forgiveness allows us to let go of the hurt and pain that we have experienced and move forward in our lives with a renewed sense of hope and purpose.
By releasing the negative emotions and attitudes that come with unforgiveness, we create space in our hearts and minds for positive emotions such as love, joy, and peace to flourish, allowing us to live a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
Forgiveness, however, is very different from reconciliation.
It is possible to forgive someone without offering immediate reconciliation.
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Wife hides baby from me
Hie Tete Joyie
I am a 40-year-old self employed man and my problem is that my wife gave birth to a baby girl, but after being discharged from hospital she went to her sister’s house without telling me.
It is now two months and I have not met the child, please help me.
Tete Joyie says:
I am sorry to hear about your situation.
It is important to have open and honest communication in such circumstances.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Reach out to your wife.
Try to have a calm and understanding conversation with your wife about your feelings and concerns.
It is important to listen to her perspective as well.
2. Involve a mediator.
If direct communication is challenging, consider involving a trusted family member or friend who can mediate the conversation.
3. Seek professional help.
If the situation does not improve, you might want to consider seeking help from a professional counsellor or therapist.
They can provide guidance and help facilitate communication between you and your wife.
Remember, it is important to approach this situation with patience and understanding.
It is a difficult time for everyone involved.
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