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Dear Tete Barbara
Can you imagine that my 18-year-old daughter is pregnant Tete? I have been toiling for her to go to school, suffering and borrowing so that she has a good life and this is the appreciation I get.
I have chased her out of my house and I am not ready to accept that pregnancy. I am just so angry, I am afraid if I see her, I may beat her to a pulp. What should I do?
Tete Responds
Any loving and hard working parent investing in the future of a child would feel the way you are feeling right now.
It is natural to feel upset when any plan goes wrong and to feel angry when disappointed. The fact that you have taken time to write this is a reflection of a parent who is still concerned.
I am glad that not once did you mention anyone else’s opinion but your own feelings. Most people react to situations according to the standards set by society but clearly you are not one of those.
Having said that, you did not say where your daughter is living now or whether you know who is responsible for her pregnancy. Whatever the situation, do not let this hurdle kill the bond between you and your little girl.
Believe it or not, she needs you for guidance more now than ever before in this new complicated world she has entered.
Tell her how she has hurt you and find out what her situation is like but remember to show her that you will always love her.
Discuss if she is ready for marriage, is her partner ready, is he reliable and so on. You are still the parent and you cannot afford to turn away when your child is surrounded by a pride of lions waiting to kill.
It is difficult, but sadly disappointment is part of the parenting package. She can still make you proud and remember every child is a blessing many are seeking but not all are receiving.
Be Strong!
