Grumpy hubby working on my last nerve

17 Mar, 2023 - 00:03 0 Views
Grumpy hubby working on my last nerve The husband had an accident while driving with his lover

The ManicaPost


Dear Tete Joyie:

I have been married for nearly four months and we have been intimate twice in that time.


I don’t feel any love from my husband at all.


He sulks and kicks off when things don’t go his way.


He doesn’t do anything for me and never buys me gifts or flowers.


He is away Monday to Friday as he is a driver.

I am his third wife, but he is already driving a wedge between us and threatening the marriage.


I am so unhappy, what should I do?


I have tried talking to him, but it is falling on deaf ears.


I just don’t think he loves me.


I am 47 and he is 42. What is your advice?

Tete Joyie says;

Well, this could be an indication of why he is on to his third wife.

You need to talk to him again, but he needs to know how serious you are.


It is not just something that is irritating you, it could mean the end of your marriage.

He needs to know that if nothing improves, there is no point in you being there because you are so unhappy.

If he is away most of the week, it means the days you spend together have to be quality time.


Being in the same room together while he slobs in front of the telly all weekend isn’t going to cut the mustard.

You can’t sustain a relationship like that.


In his mind, he probably thinks you are blowing this up into a bigger thing than it is, but small gestures that show you care can go an awfully long way like coming home and giving your partner a hug or taking them to the pub for dinner.

He has to start being less selfish and begin engaging with you or your relationship is over.


Boyfriend’s sister can’t move on from his ex

Tete Joyie:

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years now, but his sister is still good friends with his ex.

To start with, he was vocal about the fact that he was uncomfortable with her inviting his ex over to their mum’s house.

But because he is the type of man to avoid the problem rather than deal with it, he hasn’t actually done anything about the way it is making us feel.


I am different in that if I have a problem I would rather be upfront and discuss it so we can move on.

The past couple of years have been a nightmare for me, as I have not been able to say anything because I don’t want to make things uncomfortable in the family.

It has been slowly getting worse and his sister and his ex are spending more and more time together.


When we see his sister at his mum’s house, she is always talking about his ex and what they have been doing together.

Now his ex is pregnant and it is looking like his sister is going to be godmother to the baby.


My boyfriend and I really think this is a step too far.

I don’t know how to deal with it, but I would like to get it sorted as we are relocating soon and I don’t want to take all this bad feeling with us.

I should point out that no one in my boyfriend’s family seems to think any of this is wrong, apart from him, and they have never said anything to his sister, even though they know how we feel.

There is no one to mediate and none of his family talk about their problems the way I was brought up to do.

Am I overreacting or is my frustration justified?


How can we move forward?

Tete Joyie says;

I totally understand how you feel, but I kind of get their point of view, too. It can be tough for the family when a couple breaks up, especially if they have been together a while.

I remember when my older sisters stopped seeing their boyfriends that I had gotten to know really well and not being able to believe I would have to say goodbye to them forever.


And I have felt the same when my sons have split up with girlfriends that I have really gotten along with.

However, the situation you are in makes it very hard for you and your boyfriend to move on psychologically.


His ex is still in your lives by hanging out with his family and she is being talked about in front of you.

If your boyfriend and his family find it hard to discuss sensitive issues, then you will probably have to be the one to bring it up.

You can’t dictate who his family invite to the house, but you can make sure you are not there when his ex is.


You can also be honest that you don’t like the fact she still visits and that you would rather they didn’t bring her up in conversations while you are there.

Say that the situation makes you feel uncomfortable and you worry they will never accept you fully while the ex is still around.

The bottom line is, you are with their son now and therefore part of their lives too, so they should take on board what you have to say.


His sister in particular ought to be more sensitive. But don’t let it split the two of you up or spoil your move.

If you are looking for advice on the tricky situation that you find yourself in, WhatsApp 0716 069 196 and Tete Joyie will assist you in solving the problem. Remember, all those who write to us remain anonymous.

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