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PARENTS FIGHT REVEALS SECRET
Dear Tete Barbara
I am a girl aged 15, born with three younger siblings who are all girls. All my life I believed that both my parents were my biological parents until I overheard my mother arguing with my dad. They had been grumpy all the week and then on a Tuesday evening everything exploded. My father spilled the beans and I was listening. He reminded my mother how I was not his biological daughter and told her that when she packed her bags, she had to go with me too. I loved my father very much, but this new revelation has crumbled my world. I have not spoken to anyone about what I heard that Tuesday night. Help me, it is driving me crazy!
Tete Barbara Responds
It is quite unfortunate my dear that you stumbled on a conversation between your parents during a disagreement has left you hurting. You must understand that in life so many things happen that are beyond our control and that you are not responsible for anything that may or may not have happened before your birth. You are a child and that is why this argument was not meant for your ears.
However, now that you have overheard this piece of information that is troubling you, I suggest that you speak to your mother. If you have a close relationship with her it will make the discussion easier. Do not be rude, aggressive or accusing when you speak to her, remain respectful. Tell her what you heard and how this information is making you feel. Whatever her response may be, remember that you are loved by both your parents and that your future is bright.
Keep Shining!
PREGNANT BY MY BEST FRIEND’S BROTHER
Dear Tete Barbara
I am in love with my best friend’s married brother. My friend and I are in praise and worship together at a local church we have attended since childhood. Last year in November on my birthday her brother gave me a lift home after choir practice. He seemed so cool and he told me about how he always found me very attractive. He said he wanted to marry me, but unfortunately the pastor at church forced him to marry a senior member’s daughter. From that day we started texting each other and then we became intimate. My problem is now that I am two months pregnant I cannot tell my best friend because she does not believe in dating married men or even have sex before marriage. What can I do?
Tete Barbara Responds
My dear, you need to get a few facts straight so that you have direction for your life. You said you are in love with a married man who has now gotten you pregnant, right. Is he going to divorce his wife and marry you, or is he going to make you his second wife? Is he happy that you are pregnant and willing to be a part of you and your child’s life? Your future is no longer just about you alone, but it now involves a child for which you are responsible. Now about your friend, you knew from the beginning how your friend feels about extra marital affairs, but clearly you chose love over friendship and that is a choice you have made. Talk to your lover so that you know exactly where you stand and then speak to your friend. If she truly is your best friend, she may be upset with you, but she will forgive you and be there for you.
However, she may also choose to cut ties with you depending on her relationship with her sister-in-law. These are all outcomes you must expect. With all that said, remember children are gifts from above.
All the best.
Goblins threaten to kill me!
Dear Tete Barbara
I have charms that are giving me sleepless nights. There is not much I can say about my situation other than the fact that I am exhausted by the things that I got myself into. I fear that one day I may wake up dead killed by my goblins or some avenging spirit. If I had known tete, I would not have gone where I went or did what I did. The most disturbing part is that I do not even have the wealth I was looking for. I struggle to feed these greedy things, but one day I know they will feed on me. I have nothing! This is just a word of advice to others out there, do not become a victim like me.
Tete Responds
There is little one can say in response to the situation which you are in. I am certain that anyone thinking of going to get any wealth enhancing charms will think twice before engaging. You did what you did, did not get the result you were looking for, but you as still suffering the consequences of your decision. Try and reach out and get help from spiritual people in churches or traditional healers. Do not give up on life, there is always room for repentance and reformation. To all who seek wealth and luxuries, remember hard work is the only thing you need to get comfortable and happy rewards from. Have a plan, make connections with people who have succeeded, learn more, widen your networks and leave the rest to God. Shortcuts may seem easy, but easy come does not always mean easy go.
Work Hard.
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