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Hie Tete , I have an issue.
I parted ways with my girlfriend and she got married a week after our break up.
A few weeks later, she called me and said she was pregnant.
She said I was the father of her child, yet she is already married.
Yes, I slept with her during our relationship, so my greatest concern is why would a married woman inform me about my possible child while she is still married?
Besides that, she said it was just to notify me, but even if the child is born, I will not be able to know him/her.
What is the reason for informing me about my possible child?
Tete’s Response:
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. It sounds like a difficult situation.
I can understand why you might be confused and concerned about your ex-girlfriend’s behaviour.
It is hard to say for sure why she would tell you about the pregnancy, but there could be many reasons.
Perhaps she wants to keep you informed about what is happening in her life, or maybe she wants to make sure you are aware of the situation in case you want to be involved in the child’s life.
It is also possible that she is trying to manipulate you or make you feel guilty.
Regardless of her motives, it is important to remember that you have no obligation to be involved in the child’s life if you don’t want to be.
If you decide to be involved, you will need to work out the details with your ex-girlfriend and her husband.
Keep in mind that this could be a complicated and emotional process, so it is important to approach it with care and sensitivity.
If you are feeling overwhelmed or unsure about what to do next, you might consider talking to a therapist or counsellor.
They can help you work through your feelings and make a plan for moving forward.
I hope this helps.
Let me know if there is anything else I can do for you.
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Jealous hubby puts passwords on wife’s phone
Hie Tete; I am a 34-year-old lady and married to a 50-year-old man.
We have two girls together.
I have one other child from another relationship, while he has nine other children with other women.
My husband suspects that I am promiscuous and committing adultery, and as a result, he constantly assaults me.
Even when I go to the borehole or well, he hides in the bushes and stalks me.
He put a password on my phone and he communicates with every man in my contact list using my phone and then accuses me of asking men out.
We have been together for six years and he has not paid any bride price for me.
I am his sixth wife.
Tete’s Response;
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this.
It sounds like a very difficult and dangerous situation.
No one deserves to be physically or emotionally abused.
It is important to remember that you are not alone and that there is help available.
You might consider reaching out to a local organisation that provides support for victims of domestic violence.
They can help you develop a safety plan and connect you with resources such as counselling, legal assistance and emergency housing.
Here are some signs of controlling behaviour in a relationship:
1. Isolating you from friends and family
2. Monitoring your every move
3. Controlling your finances
4. Using threats or intimidation to control you
5. Blaming you for their abusive behaviour
It is important to recognise these signs and take action to protect yourself.
You might consider talking to a therapist or counsellor to help you work through your feelings and develop a plan for moving forward.
If you are in immediate danger, please call the police or emergency services in your area.
Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.
You have the right to live a life free from abuse and control.
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