Dear Tete Joyie:
I am a young beautiful lady aged 22 and l was born HIV positive.
My issue Tete is that if I am asked out by a man and I disclose my status, that will be last time they contact me.
I am not sure if I should stop disclosing my status because of stigmatisation.
Tete Joyie says:
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this.
It is important to remember that you are not alone and that there are many people who have faced similar challenges.
It is also important to prioritise your health and well-being.
It is understandable that you may feel hesitant to disclose your HIV status to potential partners, but it is important to be honest with them.
Not only is it the right thing to do, but it is also a legal requirement in many countries.
There are many resources available to help you navigate dating while HIV positive.
One option is to look for support groups or dating websites specifically for people living with HIV.
These can be a great way to meet others who understand what you are going through and who won’t judge you based on your status.
Another option is to use a general dating site or app that does not discriminate based on HIV status, and be open and honest about your condition with potential partners .
It’s important to remember that not everyone will react negatively when you disclose your status.
Some people may be more understanding than others, and some may even be HIV positive themselves .
Ultimately, the decision of when and how to disclose your status is up to you.
However, it is important to prioritise your health and well-being, and to remember that there are many people out there who will accept you for who you are.
If you need additional support or resources, I recommend reaching out to a local HIV and AIDS organisation or healthcare provider.
Confused about on and off relationship
Dear Tete Joyie:
In 2021, I started dating this man whom I loved so deeply, but he was never serious with me.
We later broke up and reconciled again in 2022, this time around he was a bit serious and we dated for a year up to this year.
We broke up again due to family issues at his home.
When we broke up, I was very heartbroken and I could see he was broken too through his posts and we also spoke everyday even after the break up.
It so happened that we both have pride so from nowhere we both became silent and I ended up deleting his number.
I never talked to him since March up to now.
I tried moving on several times, but all those relationships failed because I am still thinking about him and sometimes I even dream about him, but I never slept with him.
I feel like he still needs me too, so this month we started talking again, but he never talked about reconciliation.
But I feel like he needs me because sometimes he talks of his future plans or even asking for my pictures.
What can I do Tete?
Please help me.
Tete Joyie says:
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. It is understandable that you are feeling confused and unsure about what to do next.
It’s important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who is committed to you and your relationship.
It sounds like you are still struggling to move on from your past relationship.
This is completely normal and it can take time to heal from a break-up.
However, it is important to take steps to prioritise your own well-being and happiness.
One way to start moving on is to focus on yourself and your own goals.
This could mean taking up a new hobby, spending time with friends and family, or pursuing a new career opportunity.
By focusing on your own growth and happiness, you will be better equipped to move forward and find someone who is right for you.
Another important step is to practice self-care.
This could mean getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, exercising regularly, or practicing mindfulness or meditation.
By taking care of yourself, you will be better able to manage your emotions and cope with the challenges of moving on.
It is also important to be honest with yourself about your feelings for your ex-boyfriend.
While it is natural to feel nostalgic or even hopeful about the future, it is important to remember why you broke up in the first place.
If he has not talked about reconciliation, it may be a sign that he is not ready or willing to commit to a relationship with you.
Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue a relationship with your ex-boyfriend is up to you.
If you are struggling to move on or need additional support, I recommend reaching out to a therapist or counsellor who can help you work through your feelings.
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