The ManicaPost
Dr Mazvita Machinga
Post Correspondent
I have noticed that a number of children have signs and symptoms of depression, namely persistent negative moods, tearfulness due to an overwhelming sense of hopelessness, agitation, emptiness or angry outbursts.
Some children have irritability or show frustration, even over small matters.
Children may have problems at school. Depression can cause low energy, concentration difficulties and loss of interest in activities.
Some young people may engage in risky and reckless behaviours such as substance abuse in an attempt to self-medicate their depression.
Unfortunately, substance abuse only makes things worse. Depression can trigger and intensify feelings of shame, failure, and unworthiness.
Teens may go online to escape their problems, but excessive phone and internet use only increases their isolation, thereby making them more depressed.
Others have sleep disturbances, including insomnia or sleeping too much.
If these continue for two weeks or more, it is a cause for concern.
If the child’s day to day functioning is negatively affected, then help is needed.
Some of these children who show signs of depression may end up engaging in risky behaviours such as substance abuse ,early sexual activities and violence, among others.
Sometimes children living with depression experience physiological challenges such a gastrointestinal issues such as stomach aches, indigestion, nausea, and cramps.
Remember teenager depression goes beyond moodiness.
It’s a serious health problem that impacts every aspect of your child’s life.
Fortunately, it’s treatable and parents can help.
All that is needed is your love empathy, guidance, and support to help your child overcome depression and get their life back on track.
Causes of depression in children
Parenting teenagers can be very challenging, especially if depression is at play.
There is no one size fits all, rather, there are multiple reasons.
For example, teens can develop feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy over school grades or as a result of ill-treatment or bullying.
School performance, social status with peers and family life can have major effects on how a teenager feels and views life.
Sometimes, depression in children may result from environmental stress.
But whatever the cause, it is important that children be engaged and helped in time.
Waiting or delaying to help children may be shattering.
As parents, it is important to keep communication lines with your children open, even if they seem to be withdrawing.
Creating an environment where a child is free to share their experiences is critical.
If you suspect that your teenager is depressed, take the time to listen to their concerns.
Even if you don’t think the problem is of real concern, remember that it may feel very real to someone who is growing up.
The following are suggestions on how to help:
a) When disciplining your children, shun the system of shaming and punishing them.
Instead, use positive reinforcement for good behavior.
Shame and punishment can make an adolescent feel worthless and inadequate and this can impact their moods.
b) As parents, focus on listening, not lecturing.
Parents need to resist THE urge to criticize or pass judgment.
The important thing is communication.
It is important as a parent to let your teenager know that you’re there for him or her, fully and unconditionally.
c) Acknowledge your children’s feelings – Simply acknowledging the pain and sadness they are experiencing can go a long way in making them feel understood and supported.
If your teenager won’t open up to you, consider turning to a trusted third party — a school counselor, a favourite teacher, a pastor, a medical practitioner or a mental health professional.
The important thing is to reconnect your child with others and encourage social connection.
d) As parents, set aside some time to talk each day.
Talking about depression and support can make all the difference in the recovery of your child.
e) Try to reduce their social media usage.
Remind your teenager that social media isn’t an ideal substitute for face-to-face interactions.
f) Encourage them to turn off their phones or at least disable notifications when socialising in person, focusing on work, or preparing for bed.
g) Get your teen involved in healthy relaxation activities.
Suggest activities such as sports, after-school clubs, or an art, dance, or music class that take advantage of your teenager’s interests and talents.
While your teen may lack motivation and interest at first, as they re-engage with the world, they should start to feel better and regain their enthusiasm.
h) Promote volunteerism.
Doing things for others is a powerful anti-depressant and self-esteem booster.
Help your teen find a cause they are interested in, something that gives them a sense of purpose.
If you volunteer with them, it can also be a good bonding experience.
i) Spiritual resources are always a source of positive coping and wellness, so encourage them to engage in such activities.
Talk to your spiritual leaders who can also be there to support you as a parent.
Remember child depression is common and the good news is that it is a treatable condition.
Dr Mazvita Machinga Ph.D is a psychotherapist in Mutare. For professional counseling, please contact 0771 754 519, 0778 838 410 or 08080482.
