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From My Heart is a platform created for you to share your issues and get practical assistance. Together we can create brighter lives and happier people, transforming mind sets one day at a time. Send your heart to heart message to Tete Barbara and read her responses.
Poverty stole my woman
Dear Tete
I am an unemployed man aged 37. Two years ago I lost my job. Odd jobs became my middle name as I struggled to put food on the table to feed my wife and child. A few months ago my wife’s family came to take her and my son away. I asked them what the problem was and I was informed that I had failed to take care of my family. My wife looked happy to leave. I do not blame her but I miss her. I wonder if I will ever see her again.
Tete responds
Personally, I feel that your in-laws acted in an inconsiderate fashion, that is if they really took your wife because you were struggling. There are ways of helping a loving couple without breaking them apart. However, there could be other reasons that could have led them to make the decision they took. Perhaps, your wife asked them to rescue her from an uncomfortable situation. If you love your woman, keep working hard and keep communication open. Try as much as possible to take care of yourself and concentrate on what you can change. Leave the impossible things to God.
All the Best
Caught pants down with the help
A few days ago, my wife walked in on me in bed with our 20-year-old maid. I was embarrassed so much that I moved into the spare bedroom without being forced. My wife has not asked me a thing but I fired the maid. The worst part is that I was having unprotected sex with her. I can not say what came over me. I did it and I am so sorry
Tete responds
You messed up my brother, big time! Why? You probably do not even have the answer yourself. You allowed lust to overtake your judgment and now you are in hot soup. Who will blow the heat for you is the question. Scream for help from those close and trustworthy to you. You need a few health tests and counselling whether or not you decide to stay together with your wife. She needs to speak. Her silence could mean a vast list of reactions. Let us just hope she is not a vengeful person. Approach your wife, apologise and amend your ways.
All the Best
The snake is his
Dear Tete
I was made to believe that a snake charm was sent to me by a close relative by a certain prophet only to discover that the snake belongs to him. I bumped into a person who knows the white garment man very well, who told me that he caught snakes for the prophet. My problem is that I had already accused my relative of being the wizard behind my misery. How can I make peace?
Tete responds
A true man of God will focus on mending relationships rather than breaking them. It is simple, apologise to your relative and learn from your mistake. Take everything you hear with a pinch of salt. Speak to your prophet or leave him if he is a conman. Real men of God do not buy snake catchers or stage healings. Make a decision and be smart
All the Best
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