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Dear Tete Joyie: I can’t help thinking that my parents are jealous of everything I have achieved.
I am 34, married with two children and running my own catering business.
My life is exhausting, but hugely rewarding.
However, my parents make cutting comments about how “lucky” I am.
They roll their eyes when they hear where we are going on holiday and when we showed them our new car, they grumpily said: “It’s all right for some.”
The thing is, they pushed me to work hard and succeed — what is their problem?
Tete Joyie says:
Your parents may have encouraged you to do well, but they are only human.
If they now feel that they have not realised their own potential in life, it might explain their begrudging respect for your success now.
Don’t allow them to get to you, rise above the barbs and carry on because you are obviously doing a lot of things right. If you can afford to give your parents a treat, do so.
Otherwise, make sure that they know how much you appreciate their continued love and support.
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In-laws’ neighbour flirts with my wife
Dear Tete Joyie: I am really cross that another man keeps chatting and flirting with my wife.
I am worried that he will push me over the edge and I will blow my top.
Every other weekend, we visit my wife’s parents for Sunday lunch.
For years, it was just the four of us, but six months ago they started inviting their next-door neighbours.
My in-laws are very fond of the lively couple and regularly socialise with them.
The trouble is, the man clearly fancies my wife. He is always complimenting her and they have cosy little chats together.
I don’t want my wife to think I am paranoid or controlling, but it is eating away at me.
What should I do?
Tete Joyie says:
I urge you to speak up. Take your wife to one side and explain that you can’t go on with things the way they are.
She may not realise it, but her parents’ neighbour oversteps the mark every time he corners her and flatters her — and it is really beginning to get on your nerves.
You are not being silly or overly sensitive, but too often you have had to sit and watch him play the lothario and you don’t like it.
It feels as if he is attempting to challenge you.
No, you are not perfect, but you would not act this way with his wife.
Ask her to see things from your point of view.
Maybe it would be better for all concerned if you spoke to your in-laws and changed this routine before feelings boil over.
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I am dating a man more than double my age
Dear Auntie Joyie: I have an issue and I need your help.
I am a girl aged 18 and I am dating a married man aged 43. I know his age is too much, but I love him.
He does everything for me. I also give time with his family.
What do you think I should do? Please help.
Tete Joyie says:
It is important to approach this situation with caution and consider the potential consequences.
Dating someone who is already married can be complicated and may lead to emotional pain for all parties involved.
Here are a few suggestions on what you can do:
Reflect on your values: Consider your own principles and what you want from a relationship.
Think about whether being involved with a married person aligns with your beliefs and have a conversation with the person you are dating.
Discuss your concerns, expectations, and the potential impact on both of your lives.
It’s crucial to have a clear and honest communication before making any decision.
Consider the consequences: Understand that being involved with a married man can lead to significant emotional turmoil, not only for you but also for their spouse and family.
Considering your age, I do not think you will are ready to be involved in messy turmoils over a man.
Respect boundaries: Regardless of the decision you make, it’s essential to respect the boundaries set by the married person.
If they choose to remain in their marriage, it’s crucial to accept their decision and avoid pressuring them into leaving their spouse.
Consider the potential consequences and evaluate if it’s worth pursuing the relationship: It is important to consider the well-being of everyone involved before making any decisions.
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