I love him but he is not sexually attractive

28 Sep, 2018 - 00:09 0 Views
I love him but he is not sexually attractive

The ManicaPost

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM in a wonderful relationship with a sweet guy who will do anything for me and only wants to make me happy.

I love him but I am not sure I find him sexually attractive. He is 24 and I am 23.

He has low self-esteem and I know that he is not very experienced. His last girlfriend was mean to him. I brush off any suggestion of sex as I am uncomfortable with his lack of experience.

He is very patient and willing to learn but I find he is too sweet and just not forceful enough.

DEIDRE SAYS: This is a tricky one for many women.

You long for someone who is caring and considerate by day, but you want him to turn into a masterful sex god in bed.

Try to see him as someone who can learn what it takes to please you.

DEAR DEIDRE: A WHILE back, I started dating a wonderful girl who made all my insecurities disappear.

But I have created my own problem by sending flirty texts to a woman I knew at college. When my girlfriend and I decided to go on holiday together this summer, my insecurities started to creep back again.

I began texting this other woman but, of course, my girlfriend saw my messages. She contacted the other woman, who she also knew, who confirmed it. My girlfriend left, there and then, and I can’t say I blame her. But I miss her so much and I really want her back. I am 24.

DEIDRE SAYS: The answer is a sincere apology and to know you really mean it. Do this face-to-face if possible, but also write saying how sorry you are and how much you miss her. Do not expect her to fall into your arms. It may take a while to convince her you mean what you say.

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM 32 and I found myself googling “how to get pregnant without your partner knowing”.

Then I stopped myself because I do not want to be that kind of crazy girlfriend.

I have been with my partner for three years and I have now reached the point where I know I want to have kids.

He is 35 and he says he feels the same, but he wants us to marry first.

That is fine with me but he has not proposed! He just says it will happen eventually. I am worried that when at last we get married, I might be too old to have children. I am in tears everyday. I do not want to pressure him but I do not know how to stop feeling this way.

DEIDRE SAYS:  I am on your side. You are 32 and you know you want to have children. Why wait?

Does your partner understand your fertility peaked about nine years ago and is on the decline? It will drop steeply soon. He says he wants kids so he needs to know facts — that is not putting pressure on.

Take the lead, be assertive and start planning the wedding. If that is not what he wants he needs to be honest with you.

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