DEAR DEIDRE: MY best friend’s fiancée is pregnant and I’m the father. I love this girl but I know my mate will hate me if he finds out.
My pal and I are both 24 and have been best mates since school. He is an only child and I have only one much older sister, so we became close. We’re like brothers.
He and I decided to have a weekend away at the seaside last month and his girlfriend came along, too. The weather was brilliant. After a picnic on the beach, we sat around in the sun all afternoon.
In the evening, we went to a few pubs and all had a lot to drink, especially my friend.
He went straight up to his room when we got back to the hotel and I asked his fiancée, who is 23, if she would like one last drink in the hotel bar before joining him. When the barman stopped serving drinks, we agreed it was time for bed and went upstairs.
I gave her a goodnight kiss and it turned really passionate. We went back to my room and our hands were all over each other as soon as the door was closed, and we had sex on my bed.
The sex was the best ever but we were carried away and didn’t think about protection.
I told her afterwards that I have always really liked her. She said she feels the same but she doesn’t want to hurt my mate. We agreed that it must not happen again.
DEIDRE SAYS: Ask her whether she really means she wants to be with you or whether it was a moment of madness brought on by sun and alcohol.
If she loves you, it would be wrong to go ahead with the wedding to your mate. The marriage won’t last and could cause a lot of unhappiness along the way — including to her baby. You’d lose your best friend, but he’d probably find another partner.
DEAR DEIDRE: I DIDN’T tell my boyfriend my real age when we got together because I wanted to have a chance with him.
I was 16 but I said I was 17. He was 22. We have been together for four years. We love each other and he has asked me to move in with him.
I have just discovered that I am pregnant and I know I need to tell him the truth about my age now. It was wrong of me to lie for so long and now I am worried about his reaction. Our relationship is perfect apart from this and I do not want to lose him, especially now I am pregnant.
DEAR DEIDRE: You have been together four years so maybe he’s guessed how old you are from things you or your family have said.
Tell him that you love him and you need to be honest about your age. — thesun.co.uk