Tete Responds:
Blaming yourself at this particular juncture is not necessary. What is done is done. Move out of the guilt into the acceptance of things as they are. You owe your wife the truth which is her right to know your status. It is possible that if she gets tested, she may be negative. Do you not want to give her a chance? If you truly love her, you will disclose your position no matter what her decision afterwards. Ask your counsellor to help you engage your wife to disclose your status. Remember, it is not a death sentence.
Be Strong.